Is this normal? A woman on TikTok asked other married couples to share some things that are “normal” in their marriage that other people probably wouldn’t understand. Here are some of the responses she got:
•“Separate bathrooms will change your life.”
•“We fight over text. No interrupting. No yelling. You can edit before you send.”
•“We don’t force each other to go to our family’s houses or events.”
•“We remove our wedding rings at night and then put them on each other every morning! A quick ‘us’ moment first thing in the day.”
•“We don’t buy each other gifts for holidays or birthdays.”
•“We have a code phrase for when we are ready to leave a party. It’s usually, “Do you have any Chapstick?” Then we both Irish goodbye.”
•“He kisses me on the cheek as he leaves in the morning and we talk again when he gets home. It’s very rare that we text or call during the work week. Like the 1940s over here.”
•“My husband does 90% of the house cleaning.”
•“My husband will not go in my purse for anything, even if I tell him it’s OK. You need keys? He will walk [the purse] over to me. Not sure why but it’s a sacred line he won’t cross, even if I don’t care.”
•We don’t fart in front of each other or use the restroom in front of each other. We’ve been married 20 years. It’s mostly him being weird about it. I fart alone with the kids.”
•“We make wildly inappropriate ‘your mom’ jokes until one of us goes too far.”
•“We sleep in separate rooms. He snores and I’m a light sleeper.”
•“Separate bank accounts and separate blankets.”
•“We never argue. EVER. We have small disagreements that are solved very quickly. But I have never once argued with him. We’re 16 years married.”
•“I give him an annual review I call the State of the Union. I tell him ways he really impressed or disappointed me – things that matter, not little things. We discuss them honestly, and I let him know if I'm renewing his contract. One time he got a 2-year renewal, another I said we needed month to month. It has really helped me not to feel resentful for things he doesn't know, and to praise things he might not know we're special to me.”
•“My husband paints my nails. He even does designs on them.”